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03/07/07, by Kate Hopkins Email 4171 views • Categories: Restaurants

Hsiao-Ching Chou suggests the following:

I understand that not all babies are good restaurant babies and not all parents are good restaurant parents. So I propose that restaurants establish family nights when parents can take the kids and not worry whether a screech here and there will ruin someone else's dinner.

I know that there are a few parents out there who would disagree with any idea that implies that their children are anything but precious darlings. And not being a parent myself, it would seem heartless for me to say anything that contradicts their beliefs.

That being said, I think it's interesting to note that a food writer and parent acknowledges the fact that there are some moments when a child can ruin a meal for other patrons of a restaurant. Clearly there are parents out there who recognize that this can happen from time to time.

So kudos to Seattle restaurant Crush for making a family night; a night, in effect, that allows parents to feel a little less self conscious about their kids acting like kids. I think exposing children to any restaurants that don't provide "Happy Meals" is a good thing.


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Comment from: Phrits [Visitor]
Yeah, I wish they all had that...for other peoples' kids. As the parent of kids who were *always* well-behaved in restaurants--I think the youngest (of 4) was eight before they'd all aged out of the "little old lady from the next table stopping by with compliments" phase--I hated being stuck back with whatever other kids happened to be in the restaurant. Understood it, but hated it.

/sigh. Some peoples' kids.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 04:04
Comment from: Chadwick [Visitor]
About a year ago, here in Chicago, we had quite a brawl about this subject.

A restauranteur put up a sign that said:
"children of all ages have to behave and use their indoor voices when coming to A Taste of Heaven"

Major firestorm, check out the NYT article.
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/11/09/national/09bakery.html?ei=5090&en=b76b094150f30311&ex=1289192400&adxnnl=1&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss&adxnnlx=1173278911-df4xe+2B9WCyNJ0MwXTqBg

It's insane to me (as a parent and citydweller) that people can possibly think its ok to let your kids run wild, especially in "quieter" places. Chucky Cheese is just up the way folks... your kids will enjoy it more, trust me.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 06:52
Comment from: Timmy Mac [Visitor] · http://www.themcintireconspiracy.com
I think this is a great idea. My kids are pretty well-behaved, but we've skipped going out to dinner on occasion becasue it's no fun to be policing your knuckleheads instead of enjoying the meal. I mean, they have good manners, but they're KIDS, and after a while, they want to act like kids.

If I could go enjoy some food that doesn't come from a drive-through and be able to relax a bit if my four-year old acts like a four-year old, well, I'd give that restauarant a whole lot of business.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 08:26
Comment from: Ashley [Visitor] · http://blog.ashleystravel.com
I am not a parent, I am an aunt. I remember going to a Red Lobster with the parents(my sister and brother-in-law) and the nephew. The nephew decided that he was going to have a fit, turning around and screaming in the ears of the family who was in the next booth over. The parent’s approach was to let him just 'cry it out and get over it.' I was shocked and embarrassed to be sitting with this screaming kid and told them that if they were not going to take him out of the restaurant, I would! I didn't want my meal, nor the eardrums of our neighbors ruined.

That being said, this same child now gets McDs on a regular (almost daily) basis and won't eat anything else that doesn't come with a toy or smothered in sauce. So I ask myself, what is the greater of the two evils: a screaming child at my dinner or a child who thinks that good food comes in a Happy Meal?

Kudos to Crush!
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 09:51
Comment from: Jah Larry [Visitor]
The problem is the parents, not the kids. Given the right expectations, fair treatment and discipline, most children will behave through a normal length diner. You'll just have to wait a few years until you can go to those 10 course wine pairing meals.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 12:17
Comment from: Fredrik Rubensson [Visitor] · http://www.highlevelbits.com
I have been blessed with kids (now 11 and 10 years old) that prefer sushi over McDonalds. They actually despise McDonalds altogether and have been doing so for several years. I think this is related to us cooking a lot at home and teaching them to eat whatever the grownups eat. I agree with you all in that the parents decide what kind of kids they get by raising them properly. Kids without a decent rule framework will not behave in a restaurant (or any other place) if there is nothing to gain from it. Maybe families nights might be good idea for families with very youg kids. It is hard to tell a one year old not to cry. But for older kids I think parents should take their responsibility and make sure they can behave in any restaurant without disturbing other guests.

(Thanks for a great blog by the way. Have been reading it for a while now.)
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 13:24
Comment from: Mark [Visitor]
The implicit assumption in "family night" is that families are not welcome on other nights. Hallelujah! More than babies, it's the toddlers and grade school kids that are most annoying. I guess parents just become desensitized to their own kids. I can understand that--otherwise you'd go crazy. But it makes it hard on other people when they are out in public.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 19:44
Comment from: Nicholas Caratzas [Visitor]
Folks worried that your baby's crying or tot's short cranky outburst is going to ruin my meal -- don't sweat it. We were all kids once, we all did it, and really, a few seconds of noise isn't going to trash my kidless ass's night, especially considering the limited means the young'ns have for making their needs known. And I know because you're concerned about others, if it turns into a scene you'll deal with it in a way that doesn't disturb the rest of us.

Some of us were blessed with considerate, patient parents able to deal with our episodes and use them to teach proper behavior in outside company. These are the parents who'll welcome kids' nights. Unfortunately it's the inconsiderate parents of monsters who really need to limit their dining to those evenings; but I'm afraid those are the people least likely to take advantage of the opportunity.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 20:05
Comment from: Kelly [Visitor]
While dining in Seattle (at lunch, so we were expecting a bit of noise) my fiance and I couldn't help but notice the small girl, dressed as a fairy princess, running through the restaurant yelling and knocking place settings off of unoccupied tables. Several diners were noticably disturbed. Her family seemed to be enjoying her performance, clapping and laughing.

I think the moral of the story is to, as parents, be objective. It's ok to realize your kids aren't perfectly behaved. I know I wasn't. Give them a healthy respect for dinner outings. Those of us without kids understand it's a process, and that children don't emerge from the womb with immaculate manners. Having a "fancy dinner" night at home can be a fun way to introduce kids to a restaurant experience. Mom or dad can play waiter. Treat it like a game, and they'll enjoy learning it. But if you let your kids go out in public in costume, don't be surprised when they put on a show.
PermalinkPermalink 03/07/07 @ 23:39
Comment from: ashamanja babu [Visitor]
I agree also that the problem is with the parents, not the children. It always boggles me that I can see a swarm of 20 7-year-olds being quiet and behaved on a school trip to an art museum, but those same kids will holler, whine, and throw sugar at restaurants and otherwise misbehave in other inappropriate places. I mean, if people can teach their children to behave properly in one setting, why not in all settings?
PermalinkPermalink 03/08/07 @ 07:12

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